12 marriage tips that double as team tips

12 marriage tips that double as team tips12 marriage tips that double as team tipsWhen my second daughter got married I texted zu sich one Daily Marriage Tip each morning preceding the big day. Now you might ask after having one failed marriage what makes me an expert. Im not. I just know from being an executive coach that what we prioritize we realize. And what we dont pay attention to gets neglected.When I give precedence to self-care, my value of connected relationships and my commitment not only to my love for my husband but to our commitment to each other it creates steadfast currency for happiness. When I do these things, my life is rich. When I dont, I start to fill that the bank is depleting.(Leadership Note You can substitute team for spouse or marriage in most of these tips.)12 Marriage (Team) Tips Always follow your gut. Your head is too analytical and your heart is too emotional. Tell your spouse that you appreciate him/her every day. When at odds, go for a walk together . Walking outdoors at a steady pace can melt away tension. Avoid saying, I know how you feel. Calm down. You shouldnt feel that way. Heres what you need to do. Use only I statements. I feel hurt when Never begin a sentence with You. Love your marriage by first taking care of yourself. Write down one thing each day that you appreciate about yourself. Savor silence. Sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just walk away and let it go. If you stay silent and still harbor badeanstalt thoughts, thats where ulcers come from. As the Beatles told us, Let it Be. Release it like a butterfly in the wind before it dies in your hand. Say thank you for the little things. He/she will smile that you notice. Leave love notes. Nobody gets them if someone special doesnt leave them. Show interest. Every morning ask, Whats on your calendar today? Learn how to disagree and still respect each other. Accept that you will never agree all the time. Thats ok. Its not a contest. Budget and allocate t ime for a consistent date night. Time is the currency of relationships so consistently invest time into your marriage. Agree to hold hands when arguing. Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling. Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. Its usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAEis an executive coach and corporate CEO who helps busy leaders get off the treadmill to nowhere to be more effective, earn more, becalmer and enjoyconnected relationships with the people who matter while it still matters.Watch her FREE Master Class training on Three Things to Transform Your Life and Career Right Now.